Twin Flames, Soul Mates?

Thank you for this. I think I experienced this. That is why I believe whatever I had with this other girl was actually a lesson from the universe. Recently started to think it was to strengthen me so that my actual twin flame and I can be reunited. This 'distraction girl' once we got even closer, we made each others' emotions run very high, we bickered out of nowhere for no reason and it would be so heated, much like that of a twin flame. But we can only have 1 TF so why did we act like this? Why were we drawn to each other shortly after divorce proceedings? Then being even closer, being alone together, I realized it was too difficult to be around her for the same reasons my ex-wife was saying about me near the end of our 16 year relationship.

And just as this article describes, she made me feel like I should be lucky she chose me, that she opened up to me and she doesn't treat me like any other guy, since guys always coming on to her and she treats them badly. She used me, she made me a human check-list in a way, where I am supposed to know her favorite everything. Since I did fall in to it somehow, and brought her chocolate and stuff like that, I felt used. This makes me the "twin flame victim" I suppose.

But it was no coincidence as the article also states, it was a lesson. I now have a greater understanding of the things my actual twin flame has said.

As a result, I have gotten over the end of the relationship with my real twin flame. Our divorce sill isn't final yet. I assumed we would just continue proceeding down that road since I did get over her, and posted about it here on the forum, that I no longer even have a target. My feelings of my real twin flame or much more healthy due to the lesson I learned from the experience with the false twin flame.

Here's some interesting facts about us. The life path number of my TF and myself are the same. (which doesn't necessarily mean anything good) and the compatibility between the false TF life path number and mine says "they don't usually fall in love but when they do it's a long lasting relationship"

Now if only I could show my original target (my TF) that my feelings are more healthy now, that I did get over her and I think I am back in love with her. She refuses to speak with me, even about kid-related topics that she is supposed to. I have no idea what to do next. I need to show her the lessons I've learned, but I think she fears falling back in love with me.

Good point. I'm glad I wrote what was going on so that you could point that out for me.

I learned my lesson that I was supposed to learn and now I believe it's time to re-focus back on her. So, I appreciate the .